Leadership Isn’t Control
By Carrie, Ministry Advancement
“And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient,” II Timothy 2:24
I never really saw myself as a leader. I saw something that had to be done and went about doing it, drafting people along the way to join me. I set very high standards for myself and expected everyone else to live by them. I was anything but the patient and gentle servant Timothy speaks of. Everything had to be done my way and in my time. Quite often I would end up finishing the task myself because I had driven everyone away!
It wasn’t until I was brought to a place of complete brokenness that I realized how wrong I had been. I had been leaning on my own understanding and depending on my own strength. Even though it was always for a good cause or seemed a good thing to do, I wasn’t following God’s lead and I was harming others and leading them astray with me.
I repented of my pride and arrogance and, with the help of the Holy Spirit, I began to learn how to use the gifts God had given me in a way that glorified him and built people up rather than tearing them down. I prayed for the Lord to help me be gentle and patient – to love people the way He loved me and to lead in humility.
I realize that to be able to lead the way Christ wants me to, I need to stay close to Him. This means spending time every day in prayer and reading the bible. I also commit time to praise Him and to be in His presence daily. It is the only way to “know” Him and to stay on the path He is leading me on. I no longer respond to situations or requests to do things without confirming them with the Lord first. Neither do I hold back when the Lord says come! I pray for guidance and walk, one step at a time in His footprints.
I work with people differently now. I look for and see other’s gifts and talents and how the Lord uses them to accomplish His will. I treasure the gift of working with them and praying with and for each other. I have found peace even in the midst of trials and joy “unspeakable” regardless of circumstances. I lack for nothing because I am complete in Him.
I lead confidently now, because I follow Him who went through everything so He could lead us safely through anything we face. I don’t need to “draft” people to help me anymore. Through prayer; the Lord brings people together to accomplish His purpose. Leadership isn’t about control – it’s about being connected to Jesus and helping others to do the same. Who can be a leader? Anyone through Christ! Is He calling you?
“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing” James 1:2-4